Be kind

I have been thinking a lot about kindness. There was a time I thought kindness was everyone's default and upon reflection, I realize that is not always the case and to top it off, I realize I am not always a kind person. I have always thought of myself as a peace-loving, sweet, and kind person. Turns out I can actually be mean and it really bothers me because I am also recovering people-pleaser. I am usually mean the second a person rubs me the wrong way; or at least what I perceive to be wrong, unfair, and unjust to me.

As a former people-pleaser, being kind was my go-to method in my people-pleasing era. I was shocked to realize that I am not as kind as I thought was the case. Well, I don't know when I became a mean person or when I stopped being the kindest person. The truth is, I love myself more when I am kind to everyone including when I am kind to myself. It is really important to me to be a kind person. These days I am aware of when I do something that contradicts kindness and it helps me to reconsider my actions, there are times that I am not aware of it until much later. It is exhausting to always audit my way of being, but it is better than being a mean and ugly person. There have also been times when the situation/person did not deserve my kindness but even so, I still needed to be (extra)kind. I find with age comes maturity and it has helped my perspective big time. I don't need to wait for the next person to be kind before I can be kind, I now walk around the world in my true and kind self.

So, what does it truly mean to be kind?

I may not know the answer fully, but I am happy that kindness is not an option for me, but it is a place which I operate from.

: :

Amaze yourself
Be kind
Create
Dream big
Enjoy life
Fear not
Go places
Have fun
Imagine
Jump for joy
KnowJesus
Love well
Meander
Never quit
Open your heart
Pray a lot
Quiet down
Rise up
Sing along
Trust God
Unite
Venture out
Wonder
eXtend grace
Yearn for God
Zig zag

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